Girls Night #152: The Reason you Might be Missing Out on Your Person
IN THIS PODCAST EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN:
How to create a must-have or non-negotiable list when dating (and why they’re important!)
What should be on your must-have list
What you can (and maybe should!) take off of your must have list
Things you should consider when dating someone younger or older than you
Things to think about if weight/height/other physical specifications are on your must-have list
Why changing your must-have list can positively change your life
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ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Hey friends! Welcome to Girls Night!
I’m so excited about today’s episode. Today we have my dear friend, Kait Warman back on the show to talk us through our must-have lists when dating. A little while back Kait shared a mini series on her own podcast all about compatibility factors and non-negotiables when it comes to dating and I knew we needed to have her on to tell us what she learned!
Here’s the thing: Most of us have a pretty clear picture of what we’re looking for in a significant other. It might be a general idea of yes and no, or it might be something we took the time to formally write down. But this must-have list guides us along the way. It’s why we swipe left and why we swipe right. It’s why we say yes and why we say no. It’s why we give some people a chance and we don’t for others.
And knowing what you want is a really good thing.
But every once in a while, there’s something on our must-have lists that doesn’t need to be there and it causes us to miss out on some really wonderful guys — one of which might just be our person.
That’s what happened for Kait. There was one item on her must-have list that would have totally eliminated her now fiance. Changing her must-have list changed her life. But she’ll tell us the whole story in this episode.
Friends, if you’re trying to put yourself out there, trying to meet people, and feel like it’s just not working, this episode is for you.
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LINKS FROM THE SHOW
Steph’s book, The Lipstick Gospel (here’s a paperback copy and here’s a free digital download!)
Steph’s prayer journals, Every Single Moment and The Between Places
Kait’s Podcast: The Heart of Dating Podcast
Kait’s book: Thank You For Rejecting Me
Past Girls Night Episodes with Kait:
Girls Night #40: How to Date Without Fear of Rejection
Girls Night #72: How to Move Forward After a Breakup
Girls Night #81: A New Perspective on Preparing for Marriage and Praying for Your Future Husband
Girls Night #115: How to Heal and Move Forward After You’ve Been Rejected
Girls Night #137: How to Invest in Your Future Marriage and Your Single Life at the Same Time
Quotes Mentioned:
"Date the unexpected and God might do the unexpected" - Kait
"Often times healthy looks boring" - Kait
"Just because someone shares your faith doesn't mean that they share your other values" - Stephanie
"Height is a preference, it shouldn't be a non negotiable." - Kait
"If we have eliminated people because of their weight...we need to ask ourselves why" - Kait
"What exudes more than anything is the woman who truly knows who she is, loves who she is, and is exuding confidence" - Kait
"The right guy is not going to judge my exterior" - Kait
"Beauty is defined by God" - Kait
"At the end of the day, I don't think you should necessarily eliminate somebody based on their political affiliation. I think rather than that you should get curious about this person and their values" - Kait
"Our identity is not in politics, our identity is in Jesus." - Kait
"When we start judging people based on their past, we are forgetting the whole point of the cross" - Kait
"You don't necessarily want to date someone who's never worked through their trauma woundings" - Kait
CONNECT WITH KAIT
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