+ How to trust God when you don't know what's next

• You have a new book called, The Between Places: 100 days to trusting God when you don’t know what’s next. I know that when someone writes a book about something, it usually means they’ve spent a lot of time wrestling with that particular thing in their own lives. Can you tell us what this has looked like for you?

• In the midst of uncertainty, what we want most is an answer. We want to know what’s coming and when. But in The Between Places you say answers will never give us peace. Why is that?

• When we’re in the thick of it, things like platitudes, Pinterest wisdom, and encouragement that “everything happens for a reason” are just not helpful. Where have you found peace and comfort when you’re in a between place? And how can we find peace and comfort in our between places too?

• A few years ago you had a season where you struggled with some major anxiety and depression, but for the longest time you didn’t recognize what it was. What are some normal things to feel in the midst of uncertainty, and how do we know when it’s time to ask for help?

• Sometimes it’s in our hardest seasons that we have the hardest time talking to God. I know you experienced this in the midst of your anxiety and depression, so you tried a different way to pray. What did you do and why do you think it transformed your faith the way it did?

• I think so many of us are afraid to pray big, specific prayers. We’re afraid of being entitled, or asking for the wrong thing, or even setting ourselves up for disappointment by asking God for something He can’t give. What encouragement do you have for us when it comes to praying boldly?

• Steph, I know that you wrote the majority of The Between Places as you and your husband were going through IVF. What was it like writing a book about trust when you were struggling to trust God so much yourself?

• For the longest time it looked like the fertility treatments weren’t going to work. But right as you were finishing this book, God did something incredible in your story. Can you tell us what happened?

• When we’re in the midst of a between place in our lives, it’s so easy to wish it away. But after walking through so many between places, and even right in the midst of your fertility journey, you’ve said that if given the choice, you’d walk through all of these things again. Why is that?

+ How to lead a life-changing Bible Study/Small Group

• Leading a small group can be one of the most rewarding things we do as believers, but it can also be so tricky! What are some of the common problems people run into when leading a group like this?

• Stephanie, so many of your readers and podcast listeners say that you feel like their own personal small group leader, and I know that your blog, your books, and your podcast are all inspired by an experience you had as a small group leader for sorority women. Can you tell us about that?

• Something that’s remarkably hard when you’re leading a small group or a Bible study is just getting people to show up. Have you found this to be the case? Do you have any suggestions for how to get some consistency in our groups?

• You place a big emphasis on the actual space where the group meets. What kind of environment should we be trying to cultivate and why does it matter?

• One thing that’s really hard about leading a group is getting people to open up. Stephanie, I know this is your specialty. How do you get your groups to connect so vulnerably?

• What things can we do as the leader to make our small group successful?

• If we’re looking to start a small group of our own peers, how do we go about doing that?

+ How to share the Gospel with a non-believer in a way that will actually draw them closer to Christ (and not push them away!)

• Stephanie, you didn’t grow up as a Christian and you actually had some pretty big walls up against Christianity. Why was that?

• Your faith journey began in one of the hardest seasons of your life. What happened?

• In the midst of this season, your best friends shared the Gospel with you and you ended up having a pretty radical conversion experience in the Sistine Chapel of all places. Can you tell us about that?

• You have a unique perspective into what non-believers (especially skeptical, hard-hearted ones!) might be thinking and feeling as their Christian friends approach them with the Gospel. From that perspective, how do we go about sharing our faith with our unbelieving friends in a way that will actually draw them closer to Christ (instead of pushing them away?)

+ How to stay in touch with long-distance friends

• Stephanie, you have lived more than 1,000 miles from your best friends for more than 6 years now. Yet, you say that you are closer than ever. Have have you and your friends managed to stay so close?

• Sometimes long-distance friendships fade because it feels like one person is making all of the effort. If we’re the ones putting in the lion’s share of the effort, how do we handle that?

• Is there ever a time when you should just call it quits on a friendship? And if so, how do you know when it’s time, and how do you actually go about doing that?

• How do you rekindle a friendship that has faded due to distance?

+ How to make new friends as an adult

• Stephanie, I’ve heard you say that the first year you were married was the loneliest year of your life (and that it had nothing to do with your husband!) Why was that?

• Why do so many adult women find themselves without a great group of girlfriends? Is this a common problem?

• Do you have any tips for women who are in the process of moving someplace new? Any things you did (or wish you would have done) to help this new place feel like home more quickly?

• Stephanie, you say that while it wasn’t easy, within one year of living in your new town, you had found your people. How did you do that?

• So if we find ourselves in a situation where we need to make new friends, where do we start? Where do we even begin to find new friends as an adult?

• You say that our churches are the greatest untapped resource in the world when it comes to friendships. Why do you say that? And how do we take better advantage of that resource?

• How do we find/make time for friendships in the midst of our busy schedules?

• Finding a few friends isn’t the end of the journey. It takes so long before we have people who really feel like our people. How do you go from being acquaintances to being true best friends?

+ How to keep friendships throughout different seasons (when people move, get married, have babies, etc.)

• Stephanie, you’re a firm believer in the fact that we can still be best friends with people even when we’re moving into totally different seasons of life. Can you tell us about that?

• It can be so painful when our friends are moving ahead of us in life. It can bring up so many feelings of comparison and even pain as we watch our friends get things that our hearts are deeply longing for (marriage, babies, etc.). Have you ever felt this way? How have you and your friends handled this?

• The situation is difficult the other direction as well! When you’re moving into a new season, it’s so easy to feel distant from the friends who aren’t in that season with you. Have you and your friends faced this? How have you stayed close even when some of you are married. single, have kids, don’t have kids, etc.

• Sometimes there are moments in our friendships when we’re feeling joy at the same moment our friend is feeling pain. There are also moments when our friend’s joy actually causes us pain. How do we deal with this?

• What do we do when it feels like we can’t relate to our friends as much as we used to be able to? How do we continue to relate to each other (and be sensitive to each other’s needs) when we aren’t in the same season?

• If it feels like our friends aren’t prioritizing us as much as they used to, how do we handle this? And what do we do if we’re the friend who all of a sudden has so much more on our plate?

+ A new perspective on preparing for marriage and praying for your future husband

• You’ve made it your mission to help women thrive in their single and dating lives. As a woman who has been married for six years now, why is this so important to you?

• When we talk about singleness and marriage, especially in the church, you feel like we tend to swing hard in two equally destructive directions. What are those directions?

• You’ve identified a really beautiful middle ground here — what is that middle ground?

• I’ve heard you say that this practice of really investing in your single life transformed your marriage before it even started. Can you tell me more about this?

• I know that one of the hesitations you see crop up in women’s hearts is that if they get comfortable in their singleness, maybe they'll stay single forever. How do you respond to that fear?

• You recently came out with a prayer journal to help women pray for their future husbands. And I know that part of your motivation for writing this was the fact that you see women being inundated with bad advice in this area. Can you tell us about this?

• I know you are particularly excited about your new prayer journal, because prayer journaling has been such a powerful practice in your faith. Can you tell us about that?

• I know some of us are sitting here thinking, “I WANT to be good at journaling, but I’m truly just awful at it!” What advice do you have for us?

• What last piece of advice or encouragement do you have for a woman who is single right now and having a hard time with it?

+ How to make the most of your single life (and also set yourself up for an awesome dating life & future marriage in the process)

• Stephanie, you have been married for six years now, yet you write and speak to single women more than married women. Why is that?

• What did your journey from singleness to marriage look like?

• What does it mean to “make the most of our single life?” and why is that so important?

• What does it look like to wait well and trust God with this season?

• What are some of the lies you see women believing in the midst of singleness?

• One of the things we struggle with the very most when we’re single is comparison. How can we fill our lives with more joy and contentment while overcoming this pesky comparison?

• Stephanie, you say that living our single lives to the full is the very best thing we can do for ourselves in this season, but that it’s also the very best thing we can do to prepare us for dating & marriage too! Can you tell us about that?

• How do we find the balance between living life to the full as a single woman … while also taking practical steps to find our person?

+ How to date with more success (and less stress!) as a Christian woman

• To begin with, Stephanie, how do we even know if we’re ready to date? How do you make that decision?

• When it comes to finding our person in the world, what part of that is God’s job, and what part are we responsible for?

• Should we say yes to a date even if we’re not sure if we see a future with this person?

• If sharing a common faith is a must-have for us, how do we approach that conversation with a person we’re considering dating?

• What should we be looking for in a guy? How do we find that balance to where we have high standards but aren’t impossibly picky?

• Do you think Christians should be open to online dating? Why or why not?

• How do we put ourselves out there without coming on too strong (or appearing desperate)?

• When we’re dating someone, how soon should we know if there’s a future there? How soon should we know if they’re the person we’re going to marry?

• What does it mean to guard our hearts in dating, and how do we actually do that?

• Dating can be SO intimidating. Any tips for how to make it less stressful and more enjoyable?

+ How to make your blog/instagram your full-time job (that pays the bills and offers so much freedom!)

• Stephanie, you transitioned your blog into a business in a pretty tumultuous time in your life. (You and your husband lost 4 jobs between the two of you before your 1st anniversary, right?) Can you tell us that story? How did you do that?

• How do bloggers/influencers make money? How does that even work?

• We see these Instagram influencers who seem to be doing so well financially, but they have a zillion followers. So many people say that you have to have an enormous following before you can write a book or make money from your blog, but you disagree. Why is that? Can we really start making money with a small following?

• How do you turn your blog/Instagram following into a business?

• How do we figure out what our first product should be and how do we actually get people to buy that first product?

• Stephanie, within two years, you took a meager blog following (and 11 dollars in your bank account), and turned it into a 6-figure business. How did you do that?

• You also made a pretty big mistake when launching one of your first products. What was that mistake, and how do we avoid it?

• What would you say to someone who has a small following and is feeling discouraged that it’s not growing faster?

+ How to self-publish a best-selling book

• You’ve self-published nine books so far and now those books take care of your entire yearly salary. I know that at first, you self-published by accident, right? Can you tell us how this all began?

• So you self-published your first book with the intention of seeking out a traditional book deal next, yet you’ve self-published ever since. Why? What is the benefit of self-publishing vs. working with a traditional publisher?

• Writing a book sounds like a daunting task. Can you talk us through the process? How do you find the right idea, how do you actually write the book, how do you edit it, how do you get the book printed, and how do you get it out to readers?

• You don’t sell your books in the same places most authors do. Where do you sell your books and how have you transformed book selling into truly passive income?

• These days your self-published books completely pay your salary — and that’s without spending money on advertising, without going viral, without a huge Instagram following, and without any crazy connections. In fact, you say that your only connection is to your amazing audience, and that this is possible for anyone — even someone who is just getting started. Can you tell us about this?

• It seems like everyone is creating a course these days, and you’ve had some majorly successful courses, but yet instead of creating more, you’ve instead focused on writing more books. Why is this? When it comes to financial stability, what can self-published books offer us?