Answers to Your Biggest Questions About Sex Now That You're Married

IN THIS PODCAST EPISODE YOU’LL LEARN:

What to do if you don’t want to have sex as much as you thought you would
What to do if sex is awkward, or even hurts
How to get better at sex
How to get yourself (or him) in the mood
How often you should be having sex

(You can also listen right here!👇)

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Hey friends! Welcome to Girls’ Night!

Today on the show, I’m sharing one of my favorite conversations we’ve ever had on Girls Night. It’s a conversation I had back in Season 1 with my amazing friend, Hanna Seymour, and in it, we’re talking all about… get ready for it… sex.

Sex is such an important part of our marriages, and it’s something we RARELY talk about as girlfriends, but Hanna and I think we need to talk about it more. We need the chance to ask questions, to get advice and encouragement from girls who love Jesus and love their husbands and who are figuring this out too. And that’s what this episode is all about.

When we first recorded this episode, I was telling a friend about it after, and I described it to her as, “All the things you wish your big sister had told you about sex as you were getting married.”

We’ll be talking through questions like: What if you don’t want to have sex as much as you thought you would, or should you be wearing lingerie every time? What do you do if sex is awkward, or even hurts? How do you get better at sex? How do you get yourself (or him) in the mood? How often should you be having sex? And so much more.

I’m telling you, this is girls’ night to the max.

This conversation has been so healing and helpful and encouraging for me, and for Hanna, and for so many of my girlfriends. I know it will be for you too.

Now, just a disclaimer: This episode is specifically geared towards sex in the context of marriage, which I know leaves some people out.

But, here’s what I want to say about that.

1. You don’t have to be married to join us for this conversation. I think it’ll be helpful, and encouraging, and beneficial either way.

2. Head over to our Girls Night Podcast website (It’s GirlsNightPodcast.com) and look for episode #97. The episode is “Girls Night #97: How to Navigate your Sex Drive as a Single Christian Woman” and it’s SUCH a good one. I’d really love to share the episode with you!

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In this episode, Hanna and I will be talking through questions like: What if you don’t want to have sex as much as you thought you would? What do you do if sex is awkward, or even hurts? How do you get better at sex? How do you get yourself (or him)…

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Steph’s book, The Lipstick Gospel (here’s a paperback copy and here’s a free digital download!)

Steph’s prayer journal, The Between Places

Hanna's Book, The College Girl's Survival guide

Hanna's mom's book about Biblical submission in marriage (her mom is just the best!)

The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex by Sheila Wray Gregoire

The Sexually Confident Wife by Shannon Ethridge

Good in Bed — article by Gary Thomas

Hanna's lube recommendations are that it's water-based, and a great one is Slippery Stuff

The thing bringing Hanna joy is her new favorite mocktail. It's Elderflower Cordial and Soda Stream water. (By the way, Soda Stream is Stephanie's favorite too, and this is the one she has!)

The woman who's inspiring Hanna these days is Andrea Lucado, and her book is called English Lessons.

Quotes Mentioned:

“Talk to your husband about expectations” - Hanna

“It’s about connection and helping meet your needs and your spouse’s needs” - Hanna

“The more you have sex, the more you want it” - Hanna

“God cares that you have a healthy, thriving sex life with your spouse” - Hanna

“How can I best be serving my husband this week?” - Hanna

“Comparison is the thief of joy” - Stephanie

“If you’re experiencing pain consistently…go to the doctor!” - Stephanie

“Lube is your friend” - Hanna

“Talking about sex gets easier the more you do it” - Stephanie

“This is a team sport…together you are trying to figure out what works best for both of you” - Stephanie